Until the 'sound' portion of the exercise.GiraffeEars is saying that the article's definition of hedonism is self-defeating. He leaned down and, with his mouth full of rum, dripped the liquid into my mouth from his like a mama bird feeding her baby.

John traced the outline of my lips with a piece of the fruit, heightening the sensation and getting me extremely turned on. I couldn't imagine that there was a part of my body I didn't know could bring me pleasure, but here I was feeling a physical awakening from a few drops of cold liquid on my lips. The cold, gentle drops made not just my lips, but my whole body tingle. But then he slowly dripped juice from a piece of cantaloupe on to the middle part of my lips. We didn't need anything tangible for the smell and sound portions.Īs I lay blindfolded on my yoga mat with my trusty boyfriend kneeling over me (trying to ignore the fact that there were about 20 other couples in the room just inches from either side of me), a chill of anticipation rushed through my body, like the nerves you feel before you have sex with your partner for the first time.įirst came the feather, which John traced slowly and gently alongside my half-naked body. Our instructors provided us with a silk tie that John would blindfold me with (for sight deprivation, which really does help to heighten your other four senses), a shot of rum along with a tray with cheese, fruit, and chocolate (for taste), and a peacock feather and another silk tie (for touch). The point is to tap into the primal, animalistic nature of sex. Bad note-taking aside, it was the push we needed to make an intense growling tiger sound out of our mouths as we started to orgasm. Doing so immediately slowed his orgasmic roll, allowing him to flip me over on top of him.Īs we were about to orgasm, I literally looked at my notes from class to remember the next breathing technique. When we were having sex after the class, I instructed John to do the 'breath of fire' we learned in class, aka breathe quickly through his nose from his navel.

Much like with yoga, a huge part of Tantra is connecting your breath with your movement. This we learned from Kim and Brad Walker of Houston-based Tantric Hearts, who have been teaching at Hedonism II for 17 years. The main takeaway from our first Tantric couples' workshop was that some sex moves can help me experience a better orgasm-and help my partner last longer-without changing positions or involving fancy toys. It turns out growling like a tiger can enhance your orgasm.

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